Denial of own emotions = denial of others emotions

“the more educated you are, the more entrenched you are in your denial. It’s not that education leads to more openness, education leads to less openness. Because what it does is that the intellectual weapons that you gain and sharpen in the course of your post graduate education, actually allow you to use your weapon and marshal it to the service of your denial…but the denial comes first.”

“and that denial is really about peoples own emotional pain. So the block is that this stuff is painful and therefore we better not look into ourselves, and therefore were not open to it’s existence in others.”

“on the part of particularly professionals, there is a difficulty accepting this material because they haven’t dealt with their own stuff….the barrier is people’s own unresolved stuff”

“early childhood stress or trauma, results in adaptations that help the child survive in the short term but cause are the basis of pathology, physical illness, mental illness later on”

Gabor Mate attachment disease addiction denial video