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Apr 21 2011

The 5 Love Languages

Most people desire to be loved and thus express love in five distinct ways. Usually a primary and a secondary. Short test at the end to determine what your unique language of love is.

The 5 Love Languages are:
(Shamelessly copied from: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/)

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Take the test here to figure out what your primary language of Love is:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/?profiletype=singles

    • Even though the article is copied from http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/ I really like to have this shared to me. Thank you

    • Martin

      It’s beneficial to think about how to communicate love. The word language connotes relationship and otherness. Love is something that binds and builds willing hearts in freedom. Also, it’s important that it be an honest communication. Love greatly communicated is not the same thing as communicated great love. Great love is also a choice that endures trials and sufferings. To me, with all this in mind, this article makes me more mindful to choose to communicate love in a way that the other will really hear it. What is my primary language of love?… and what is the language best heard by the beloved?
      Good stuff. :)